Monday, March 2, 2009

A note to my older self

Doesn't that sound like a great book title?
I think I will start a new feature on my blog--Notes to My Older Self.
It will consist of little observations of things, other people and ideas that I don't want to forget when I become older.

This is one I must write down. I want to tuck it away and pull it out when I have grown children...who are married and are very capable of making their own decisions. This gem comes via a great friend. They said, " I believe I would have a much better relationship with my Mom if--instead of telling me what I should do--she said, 'Well, I don't agree with that, but I respect your decision and as I give this to God, I know that I can support you.' If she had that approach, I'd be much more likely to ask for her opinion or advice."
Wow. A heavy thought. This friend wanted so much to have a better relationship with her Mom but her Mom doesn't have ears to hear this statement.
I want to be a Mother who has a great relationship with my kids as they mature into adults and make decisions.
So--for my blog readers, especially those who have kids who are 18 plus...please drop in some advice, or share a regret or a time that you and your kids/mom had a breakthrough.
I want to learn.
Teach me.


Brambleberry said...

I want to learn, too.

What a great mindset....I want so very much for my kids to feel like they can come to me. Not in the worldly know what I mean.

I'm going to write that wise statement down.

LOVE the idea of Notes to your older self. LOVE IT!

Anonymous said...

A great challenging post.
Can't say as I have great advice yet, although my kids are 17, 19 and almost 22.. I'm still on a journey of learning how to be "the mom" they need.