Saturday, February 28, 2009 the window

If you drove down the street and saw a woman plastered to the window...a woman with a wild and desperate look in her eye...a woman whose face is pressed against the glass and her mouth is yelling, "Let me out! Let me out!" Don't worry, it was me.
Oh, I am fine. More than fine. The laundry is done, the house is cleaned, bills are paid, food is prepped. My kids are quietly colouring on the floor. Jeep is working his way through the taxes...and me, I'm bored. Boooo00OO00oooored. Let me out of my house!!!
What does a woman do when everything is caught up and she finds herself with free time?
Naturally, she goes to the grocery store.

Tuesday, February 24, 2009


Milkshakes come from cows
And shoes are made of leather
Exhaustion comes from running
And blue skies from pink-night weather

Lemons come from green trees
Fall comes from yellow leaves
Frost comes from nights of full moons
So winter wears woolen sleeves

Spring hops into the air
Like a rush of morning song
That sends the cows a chewing
to make milkshakes all along

Monday, February 16, 2009

OK, what I've really been up to...

As you have seen--a major lack of posts...and for a good reason.
As I am pursuing intimacy with God, it has come to my attention that there are some issues that needed dealing with.

Here's a little gem for all my married friends. And for the single woman, tuck this one away for the days when you will need this. Because, you will need it.

I've gone through the list below, and repented. And guess what? I'm crazy in love with my husband more than ever. He is the best man on the planet. He is kind, caring, thoughtful, strong, a great leader and a man who makes me laugh. He is the most precious person to me on the face of the earth. And I am so thankful that he forgives me for all the ways I have treated him when I was bitter.

Disclaimer: Remember, if you get angry, annoyed or feel like leaving this blog, it just means that your flesh is responding to God's truth.

Here we go...

A chapter from the Excellent Wife by Martha Peace
Principle #3 Bitterness Hinders Love ( don't let the title deter you!)

Many of the wives I have counseled have told me they were not bitter, they were however "hurt". Gently, I explain to them that the emotions of feeling "hurt" or "resentful" are usually how you feel when you are bitter. There are several common signs of bitterness. As you read through the following list, ask yourself if you are manifesting any of these signs:


Common Signs of Bitterness
1. Gossip and slander
In the process of complaining, the wife gossips about him and slanders her husband, thereby defiling others.She has either nothing or very little that is good to say about him.

See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled...
Hebrews 12:15-17

2.Ungrateful and Complaining
The wife is not grateful to her husband.She murmurs to herself and complains to others about him

Do all things without grumbling or disputing...Phil. 2:14

3.Judges Motives
Whatever he does is suspect in her eyes. Even if he does something nice, she thinks his motive must be off. For example, "He only did that to look good to his parents." "I know it seemed like a nice gesture, but he didn't really mean it."

Therefore do not go one passing judgment before the time, but wait until the Lord comes who will both bring to light the things hidden in the darkness and disclose the motives of men's hearts; and then each man's praise will come to him from God. 1 Corinthians 4:5

The wife spends a lot of time thinking about herself. She is very self-absorbed. Her focus is fixed on herself and the hurts done against her. not merely look out for your own personal interests...Phil. 2:4

5.Excessive Sorrow
Grief and hurt has crowded out any joy, peace or love that she used to have. It has, in fact, filled up her heart. It may, at times, overwhelm her.

But because I have said these things to you, sorrow has filled your heart. John 16:6

6. Vengeful
The wife looks for ways to avoid her husband. Perhaps she leaves when he is home, pouts or gives him the cold shoulder. she is paying him back for what he has done to her.

Never pay back evil for evil to anyone...Never take your own personal revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God... Romans 12:17,19

7. Brooding
The wife broods about what her husband has done. She thinks about it often and plays it over and over in her mind.

Love does not take into account a wrong suffered. 1 Cor. 13:5

8.Loss of Joy
Lately, the wife has little or no delight in her relationship with the Lord. Because of her sin, instead of God's peace and joy, she is experiencing intense emotional pain and misery.

And I shall delight in Thy commandments which I love. Psalm 119:47

9. A Critical, Judgmental Attitude
It is difficult for the wife to take her focus off what her husband has done wrong and foucs instead on what she is doing wrong.

You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. Matt. 7:5

If your husband has hurt you, it will help if you take a moment and think about what percentage of the problems in your marriage are his responsibility and what are your fault. For example, suppose you believe that the problems in your marriage are 40% your fault and 60% his responsibility.

God wants you to begin biblcally dealing with your bitterness by taking 100% responsibility for your 40%.